Weekly Newsletter
Castleton/Grafton United Church News for June Week 3

-an affirming ministry with a vision of worship, justice, and community outreach, putting people before dogma
-a sponsor of a Syrian refugee family, the 100 mile Diet Event, & with others Haldimand Court housing, and Heavenly helpings.
St. Andrew's at 137 Old Danforth Rd. Grafton ON K0K 2G0 and Castleton at 1815 Percy St. Castleton

Phone: 905 349 2736
  email: casgra@eagle.ca   Web: www.castletongraftonuc.com
(Rev) David Lander
david@lander.ca 905 342 9214

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Warming June Greetings!                      

                 Coming events for Castleton Grafton United Church 


Thanks to Irene Osborne for gifts to the newly baptised last Sunday including dolls she had made.

Usual Service Time: Castleton 9:15    Grafton 11 am  

 Sunday June 18th   usual times  Father’s Day

Sunday June 18th   Decoration Day for Castleton Cemetery, with the Castleton Cemetery Board serving lunch at the Church 11-2

Sunday June 18th, 2:30 p.m. - Fairview Cemetery Decoration Day  

Sunday June 25   Rev Jean Wilson at both services

Sunday June 25   Clustering Event for Castleton- Grafton, Kendal, Shiloh, New hope, Rural Faith and Coldsprings Pastoral charges at ColdSprings Park & Community Hall.  12:00-1:00   Gathering time; 1:00 – 1:45 pot luck lunch inside;  1:45 – 3:00 Listening with Rev David Timpson; singing; sharing: someone from each church to tell the story       -same day as Grafton Canada parade

Sundays July 2, 16, 23 11:00 Joint Services at St Andrew’s;        no service in Castleton; Thanks to Jean Wilson for leading these services except for the 16th which will be a drama

Sunday July 9th, 11:00 a.m. - Vernonville Anniversary service and charge picnic - no service in Castleton or Grafton

Wednesday July 26  7:30    St. Andrew's Board meets at the church. (instead of a June meeting) Committees meet ahead of time as needed

Sunday Sept 10th 3pm a benefit concert featuring Azad and movie at the Loft sponsored by the Flight 2 refugee sponsorship committee, while awaiting two refugee families awaiting approval to come to Canada.  

Sunday Sept. 10th, 12:00 to 4:00 p.m.  - 100 Mile Diet Event at the Haldimand Arena. Come see what our local vendors have to offer.


This will be the last e-newsletter for a bit. David next Thursday will be attending grandchildren graduations in Bellevue near Seattle

Of all the new Affirm ministries this month, our Ptresbtery is the one pictured in the Affirm newsletter http://mailchi.mp/b9e8fee6b4ca/your-affirm-united-newsletter-votre-bolletin-saffirmer-ensemble-june-juin-2017?e=841057f647

Check our website   http://www.castletongraftonuc.com/  if you wish to see our annual report, our photo gallery, listen to a sermon, see info & photos of the 100 Mile Diet event etc., our refugee sponsorship, how and why we became affirming, archive of media reports of our church activities and of Davids columns.

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A few quotes and snippets:

"To try to deny the Trinity endangers your salvation, to try to comprehend the Trinity endangers your sanity."  Martin Luther

"We must learn to regard people less in the light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer." Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison

"I would rather make mistakes in kindness and compassion than work miracles in unkindness and hardness." Mother Teresa, A Gift for God:

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.   - Viktor E. Frankl

There is nothing so good for the inside of a man as the outside of a horse. John Lubbock, sometimes incorrectly attributed to Winston Churchill

If one’s provinciality has never been challenged, it is easy to know a lot of things for sure. Marcus Borg Foundation

"Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into the places of pain, to share in brokenness, fear, confusion, and anguish. Compassion challenges us to cry out with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, to weep with those in tears. Compassion requires us to be weak with the weak, vulnerable with the vulnerable, and powerless with the powerless." Henri J.M. Nouwen

"People say, 'What is the sense of our small effort?' They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time, take one step at a time. A pebble cast into a pond causes ripples that spread in all directions. Each one of our thoughts, words and deeds is like that. No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless. There is too much work to do."    ~ Dorothy Day

“Forgiveness flounders because I exclude the enemy from the community of humans and myself from the community of sinners.”   - Miroslav Volf

"You can't buy, achieve or date serenity and peace of mind. This is the most horrible truth, and I so resent it. it's an inside job." — Anne  Lamott

Wisdom tends to grow in proportion -to one’s awareness of one’s ignorance.  - Anthony de Mello

To be old & wise, you 1st have to be young & stupid.

Jaggi Vasudev has said: The sure sign of intelligence is that you are constantly wondering. Idiots are always dead sure about every damned thing they are doing in their life.

At its deepest level, I think teaching is about bringing people into communion with each other, with yourself as the teacher, and with the subject you are teaching.  - Parker Palmer

Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change. -- Bob Kerrey

Mark Twain's Father: When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.   Mark Twain

Paco's Father:  There's a Spanish story of a father and son who had become estranged. The son ran away, and the father set off to find him. He searched for months to no avail. Finally, in a last desperate effort to find him, the father put an ad in a Madrid newspaper. The ad read: Dear Paco, meet me in front of this newspaper office at noon on Saturday. All is forgiven. I love you. Your Father. On Saturday 800 Pacos showed up, looking for forgiveness and love from their fathers.    Bits & Pieces

A man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest.  Simon & Garfunkle The Boxer

Respect was invented to cover the empty place where love should be. Leo Tolstoy

You want to come in my life, the door is open. You want to get out of my life, the door is open. Just one request. Don't stand in the door, you're blocking the traffic.

It is hard to fail, but it is worse to never have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt

 When someone says to me I don't believe in God, my first response is, “tell me about the God you don't believe in”. Almost always, it's the god of Supernatural Theism. Marcus Borg

One may say with lips: I believe that God is one and also 3, but no one can really believe it, because it makes no sense. Leo Tolstoy

I am strong because I know my weakness. I am compassionate because I've suffered. I am alive because I am a fighter. I can laugh because I know sadness. I can love because I know loss. I am a strong woman but still love to dance in the rain .

When you put faith, hope and love together, you can raise positive kids in a negative World. Zig Ziglar

If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down. Zig Ziglar

Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and being comfortable with not knowing.  Eckhart Tolle

What good is it to me that Mary gave birth to the Son of God 1400 years ago, and I do not also give birth to the Son of God in my time and in my culture? We are all meant to be mothers of God. God is always needing to be born. Meister Eckhart

Please keep in mind that whatever you're going through, this challenging time in your life -is merely in your life. It is not your whole life. Be sure to keep this slice of your life in perspective and don't let it overwhelm you. Remember, nothing is everything. The part is not greater than the whole. Karen Salmansohn

Cherry Picked Bible: All  verses Christians do not want to follow have been omitted. Get yours today so you can eat shellfish, get tattoos, control women, and as a bonus we've added anti-gay verses Jesus never said. - Christians tired of being misrepresented.

I have learned Silence from the talkative, Toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind. Kahil Gibran

Just remember, you are blessed beyond measure. Every single day is a day you should treasure. Something will grow from all you are going through, and it will be you. Ziglar

May God bless you with discomfort    At easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships,   So that you may live deep within your heart.

May God bless you with anger   At injustice, oppression and exploitation of people,   So that you may work for justice, freedom and peace.

May God bless you with tears  To shed for those who suffer pain, rejection, hunger, and war,  So that you may reach out your hand to comfort them    And turn their pain into joy.

And may God bless you with enough foolishness   To believe that you can make a difference in the world,   So that you can do what others claim cannot be done
To bring justice and kindness to all our children and the poor.     Amen. - A Franciscan Benediction


 For those who like poetry:  



You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come, to take you back.

Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.

Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.

Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.

Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.                      John O'Donohue


 Sonnet 43: How do I love thee,
by Elizabeth Barrett Browning  Listen Online

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints—I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!—and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.


ain't in no rush
already got plenty
to worry 'bout
think i'll just sit a spell
and work it all out

     do a little whittlin'
     maybe sing a song or two
     listen to the good Lord's fingers
     brushin' thru the trees above
watch the sun settle down
for some shut eye behind those
Blue Ridge Mountains
i've come to love
     no sir
ain't nothin' so all fired
important that it can't wait
til i've ate me a bite of supper
read the Good Book
and finished whittlin'
this toy for my boy
     nope i ain't in no rush
     but i sure don't wanna be
late                  by Michael Traveler


Rest is not idleness,
and to lie sometimes on the grass
under trees on a summer's day
listening to the murmur of the water, 
or watching the clouds float across the sky
is by no means a waste of time        ~ John Lubbuck,


"Touched by an Angel" - Maya Angelou (b. 1928)

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

     Love arrives
    and in its train come ecstasies
    old memories of pleasure
    ancient histories of pain.
    Yet if we are bold,
    love strikes away the chains of fear
    from our souls.
We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.


Mercy by William Shakespeare  Listen Online from The Merchant of Venice 

The quality of mercy is not strained;
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath: it is twice blest,—
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes:
‘Tis mightiest in the mightiest; it becomes
The thronèd monarch better than his crown:
His sceptre shows the force of temporal power,
The attribute to awe and majesty,
Wherein doth sit the dread and fear of kings;
But mercy is above this sceptred sway,—
It is enthronèd in the hearts of kings,
It is an attribute to God himself;
And earthly power doth then show likest God’s,
When mercy seasons justice.


Some say you’re lucky – Gregory Orr

Some say you’re lucky
If nothing shatters it.

    But then you wouldn’t
    Understand poems or songs.
    You’d never know
    Beauty comes from loss.

It’s deep inside every person:
A tear tinier
Than a pearl or thorn.

    It’s one of the places
   Where the beloved is born.


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