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Castleton/Grafton United Church News for June Week 4

CASTLETON & GRAFTON UNITED CHURCHES -an affirming ministry with a vision of worship, justice, and community outreach, putting people before dogma
-a sponsor of a Syrian refugee family, the 100 mile Diet Event, & with others Haldimand Court housing, and Heavenly helpings.
St. Andrew's at 137 Old Danforth Rd. Grafton ON K0K 2G0 and Castleton at 1815 Percy St. Castleton

Phone: 905 349 2736
  email: casgra@eagle.ca   Web: www.castletongraftonuc.com
(Rev) David Lander
david@lander.ca 905 342 9214

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 Hi there to friends of St. Andrew's and Castleton United Churches

Thanks to all who contributed to the Gourmet dinner draw. Congratulations to Megan North on winning Ted Westbrooks Gourmet dinner.

Thanks to all who contributed to the very moving Fathers Day reflections last Sunday at St Andrew’s  There were a few memories of Dads and of growing up, a song,  and a few poems found below.

Sponsorship: The Ghrir family (Shahair, Mahair, Samir, Malik, Seham) arrived May 10 in Cobourg. (Photo above)

The Syrian refugee Kattan family (Hussein, Sundus and Mudah), hit significant hurdles with Turkey not wanting someone as educated to leave, but to everyone’s relief, they have received their exit visas and are to arrive this week. Permanent Housing is still needed for this second family for a year.  Contact Caryn MacDiarmid 905-269-8411 if you have furniture, household items.

Also with our sponsorship group a bit smaller than before, we are in need of Drivers to drive a family to appointments

Still pretty amazing for a small congregation like yours to sponsor one family on your own and co-sponsor two others.

July is David’s holiday month so there will be a break in the newsletter after next week.

Rev Anga Guignon will be available for pastoral support at # 905 396 1434


       Coming Events for Castleton and Grafton United Church 

Usual 2017-18  Service Time: Grafton 9:15 a.m.   Castleton 11 a.m.  (times reverse in October)


Sun June 24     Who’s Your Goliath                  1 Sam 17: 32- 49;  Mark 4:35- 41


 Sun June 24     Participants welcome for our float in the Grafton Canada Day parade


 Wed. June 27th, 7:30 p.m. - St. Andrew's Board meets at the church. Committees meet ahead of time as needed.


Wed. June 27th, 7:00 p.m. - David Bunyan, Kathy Berry and Shasta Morey invite you to the Northumberland New Ventures Band concert at Trinity United, Cobourg. Tickets are a measly $10 at the door, and the concert will feature a wide variety of music from pop and Broadway to jazz and classical. Light refreshments follow the concert.


Thursday, June 28th. Order of Cramahe"  award presented at the Township of Cramahe celebrations in Victoria Square Cilboren. Marion McComb is nominated


Sun. July 1st, 9:15 a.m. – Shasta Morey and Charlene Marcus will present a service of music this morning. The program includes a Canadian sing along, some Celtic style hymns, some surprise Gospel songs and lots of hymns for you to sing. 


 Sunday July 8th, 11:00 a.m. - Vernonville Anniversary service and charge picnic - no service in Castleton or Grafton


 The newest Mandate Magazine, this one themed on Affirming http://www.mandatedigital.com/mandate/spring_2018/MobilePagedReplica.action?pm=2&folio=Cover#pg1

 The link to support the effort in helping those devastated by the Guatemala volcano and ash blanket https://www.united-church.ca/guatemala-volcano


The United Church on separation of children from families https://www.united-church.ca/news/keeping-families-together-us-and-canada

The nominees for  United Church Moderator to be voted in this July in Oshawa https://generalcouncil43.ca/news/ask-nominees-week-1


The Festival of Faith offered by General Council in Oshawa this summer to which all are invited https://generalcouncil43.ca/festival

Sunday’s demo of Dancing Raisins  http://www.science-sparks.com/raising-raisins/


   Check our website www.castletongraftonuc.com  if you wish to see the week's newsletter, our photo gallery, our annual report, listen to a sermon , see info & photos of the 100 Mile Diet Event etc., our refugee sponsorship, how and why we became affirming, archive of media reports of our church activities and of David's columns .

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A few quotes and snippets:  

Romans 13 last week was used as justification by Mr Sessions to separate children from their parents. Martin Luther used that passage as justification for the government slaughter of the peasant’s revolt. It was the passage used to justify the British political doctrine of the Divine Right of Kings. It’s been used to justify slavery and apartheid; even Hitler quoted it. There are examples though in the Bible of the separation of children from their parents that were not mentioned and that he may not wish to  parallel, under Herod when Jesus was born, under Pharoah when Moses was born.

“The strangers who sojourn with you shall be to you as the natives among you, and you shall love them as yourself; for you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” Leviticus 19:33-34


But the young, young children, O my brothers, They are weeping bitterly ! They are weeping in the playtime of the others, In the country of the free. --E Barrett Browning, "The Cry of the Children"


When the power of love is greater than the  love of power, the world will know peace.


The crisis in the US church has almost nothing to do with being liberal or conservative; it  has everything to do with giving up on the faith and discipline of our Christian baptism and settling for a common, generic US identity that is, part  patriotism, part consumerism,  part violence, and part Affluence.  Walter Brueggemann


The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present or may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me, Danger is very real, but fear is a choice. Will Smith


Sometimes we think we give love to the wrong person, and we sit there and wonder, how could I have given love to that person. They don't even deserve it, or what a waste of time. But the thing is, you don’t have to think about it that way. You should think of the fact that you were able to give love, because if you are able to give, that means you have it inside of you. It's the same thing with kindness, honesty, with your ability  to care about people. Don't focus on the way people abuse that. Focus on the fact that you have it within you, and that it makes you who you are. It makes you a beautiful person, a beautiful human being. Najwa Zebian


We cannot pray in Love and living hate and still think we are worshipping God. A.W. Tozer


Anytime the Bible is quoted to defend behavior that is not motivated by the law of love, something is wrong, Amy Butler


Listen to the mustn'ts, child, listen to the don'ts, Listen to the shouldn'ts, the Impossibles, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me. Anything can happen child, anything can be. Shel Silverstein


Have you ever stopped and wondered what God has done in your life that you're not even aware of?. Perhaps God saved you from a fatal car crash that never happened. I have felt like God has protected me more times than I can count, so I can only imagine how many times God has rescued me but I was unaware that I was even a danger. Take a moment to thank God for protecting you. He is always watching over you and is there for you, even when you don't realize it..  


Sometimes the Bible in the hand of the one man is worse than a whiskey bottle in the hand of another... There are just some kind of men who're so busy worrying about the next world, They've never learn to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results. Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird


Ego vs soul:    Ego seeks to serve itself. Soul seeks to serve others. Ego seeks outward recognition. Soul seeks inner authenticity. Ego sees Life as a competition. Soul sees Life as a gift. Ego seeks to preserve self. Soul seeks to preserve others. Ego looks outward. Soul looks inward. Ego feels lack. Soul feels abundance. Ego is mortal. Soul is eternal. Ego is drawn to hurt. Soul is drawn to love. Ego seeks wisdom. Soul is wisdom. Ego enjoys the prize. Soul enjoys the journey. Ego is cause to pain. Soul is cause of healing. Ego rejects God. Soul embraces God. Ego seeks to be filled. Soul is eternal wholeness. Ego is me. Soul is we.


This Letter is for you:  The you who’s had a rough week. The you that seems to be under constant storm clouds. The you that feels invisible. The you that doesn't know how much longer you can hold on. The you that has lost faith. The you that always blames yourself for everything that goes wrong. To you:  You are incredible. You make this world a little bit more wonderful. You have so much potential and so many things left to do. You have time. Better things are coming your way, so please hang in there. You can do it. Tiny Buddha


"If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you'll die a lot of times." Dean Smith

"I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens." Woody Allen

"You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt




"The mistake most of us make in our crucial conversations is we believe that we have to choose between telling the truth and keeping a friend." -Kerry Patterson



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Is Grafton ready for Le Dîner en Blanc International -   https://youtu.be/9D6Uv1Vcvus

 For those who like poetry:  

Poems shared at St. Andrew’s for Father’s day were

by Linda Constable   https://thefarmhousechronicles.wordpress.com/2014/11/15/as-the-story-is-told-a-farmers-life/


and by Sharon Brown

What Makes a Dad 

God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of ages,
The power of the eagles’ flight,
The joy of a spring morning,
The faith of a mustard seed,
And the depth of a family need. 
      Then God combined these qualities 
      And there was nothing more to add.
      He knew his masterpiece was complete 
      And so he called it DAD. Author: unknown


Fathers are wonderful people
Too little understood,
And we do not sing their praises
As often as we should...
     For, somehow, Father seems to be
    The man who pays the bills,
    While Mother binds up little hurts
    And nurses all our ills...
And Father struggles daily
To live up to 'his image'
As protector and provider
And 'hero of the scrimmage'...
    And perhaps that is the reason
    We sometimes get the notion,
    That Fathers are not subject 
    To the thing we call emotion,
But if you look inside Dad's heart,
Where no one else can see
You'll find he's sentimental
And as 'soft' as he can be...
    But he's so busy every day
    In the grueling race of life,
    He leaves the sentimental stuff
   To his partner and his wife...
But Fathers are just wonderful

In a million different ways,
And they merit loving compliments
And accolades of praise,
    For the only reason Dad aspires
   To fortune and success
    Is to make the family proud of him
    And to bring them happiness...
And like Our Heavenly Father,
He's a guardian and a guide,
Someone that we can count on
To be always on our side.     Helen Steiner Rice




Maybe  by Mary Oliver

Sweet Jesus, talking 
his melancholy madness, 
stood up in the boat 
and the sea lay down,
silky and sorry. 
  So everybody was saved 
  that night. 
But you know how it is

when something 
different crosses 
the threshold — the uncles 
mutter together,

the women walk away, 
the young brother begins 
to sharpen his knife. 
   Nobody knows what the soul is.

   It comes and goes 
   like the wind over the water — 
   sometimes, for days, 
   you don't think of it.

Maybe, after the sermon, 
after the multitude was fed, 
one or two of them felt 
the soul slip forth
like a tremor of pure sunlight 
before exhaustion, 
that wants to swallow everything, 
gripped their bones and left them

miserable and sleepy, 
as they are now, forgetting 
how the wind tore at the sails 
before he rose and talked to it —

tender and luminous and demanding 
as he always was — 
a thousand times more frightening 
than the killer sea.


Rainer Maria Rilke(1875–1926)

The Observer

I can tell a storm by the way the trees
are whipping, compared to when quiet,
against my trembling windows, and
I hear from afar things whispering
I couldn't bear hearing without a friend
or love without a sister close by.

   There moves the storm, the transforming one,
   and runs through the woods and through the age,
   changing it all to look ageless and young:
   the landscape appears like the verse of a psalm,
   so earnest, eternal, and strong.

How small is what we contend with and fight;
how great what contends with us;
if only we mirrored the moves of the things
and acquiesced to the force of the storm,
we, too, could be ageless and strong.

   For what we can conquer is only the small,
   and winning itself turns us into dwarfs;
   but the everlasting and truly important
   will never be conquered by us.
It is the angel who made himself known
to the wrestlers of the Old Testament:
for whenever he saw his opponents propose
to test their iron-clad muscle strength,
he touched them like strings of an instrument
and played their low-sounding chords.

   Whoever submits to this angel,
   whoever refuses to fight the fight,
   comes out walking straight and great and upright,
   and the hand once rigid and hard
   shapes around as a gently curved guard.
No longer is winning a tempting bait.
One's progress is to be conquered, instead,
by the ever mightier one. 
(Translated by Annemarie Kidder.)


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